Our Son...

by: La'Toya R Sibley

I remember being in the store with my husband and our oldest son, who was our only son at the time, and having this lady walk up to my husband as he held our son close and tell them that our son looks just like him and how handsome they both were. I could do nothing but chuckle to myself as I thought "But he is not biologically his". My husband smiled and said "I think so too. Thank you ma'am". As she walked away, we both just chuckled and recited the old saying that if you feed  someone enough, they​

say you begin to look alike. I love the fact that my husband, from day one, took our son in as his own. Unless we say otherwise, people rarely realize that our familial beginning was not this picture perfect love story where a man and woman meet, fall in love, marry, then begin a family and live happily ever after. This was my one stipulation/prayer when I decided not to be with our son's biological father but knew that our son needed a great father figure in his life that treated him like his own and no less.... EVER.
      As I watched my husband prepare our son for his Jr year homecoming dance tonight with such love and pride in his eyes, I couldn't help but thank GOD that I made a great decision when it came to gifting our son with a strong and solid man figure. And yes I said that I gifted this to our son. A man that would love him like he was his own, discipline him with a deep sense of love while teaching our son how to walk the path of honesty, integrity and be a GOD fearing man. I have watched my husband do all of these and so much more. This is not to say that my husband is perfect, but he is treading the line. Lol. I have watched my husband discipline our son while holding back tears because it hurt him that he had to be firm when all he wanted to do was hold him. I have watched my husband take his last just so that our son could have what he needed and the best of it. I have watched my husband labor in prayer late at night but rise early in the morning just to be there to tell our son to have a great day at school. I have silently sat back and watched it all and so much more. 
      What we fail to realize as Mothers, is that having a man is not enough when it comes to our children. It is the right man that will instill in them the things that they need to be everything that GOD has called them to be. I could have stayed with our sons biological father and GOD knows I tried. But just because we created our son together does not mean that we were supposed to raise our son together and I quickly realized this and did what I had to do. Some have called me selfish, but as I watched my husband and our son tonight, I call myself blessed. I know what we had before and what we have now is 10x's greater. Nobody can tell me anything different. Our son and I are blessed.